Monday, January 23, 2017

Friends

Just a question for all my Blogger peeps.

Have you ever had an amazing friendship, a best friend/friendship, that suddenly ended?

I did this past year.
The person I used to call my best friend suddenly was no longer my friend.
I suspect that we were so politically different during this election year she simply decided we no longer had enough in common to keep the friendship going.
We came together as friends through Scrapbooking online years ago.
She lived in another state so becoming friends wasn't easy,
but we were on a design team together and after a girls weekend in LBI, NJ we both went home feeling like we had been the best of friends our whole life.
We visited one another and knew each others families.
We called each other often and shared secrets.
She was the first person I called when my mom was dying, and the 2nd person I called when my husband passed away.
She was my person.
Then suddenly it all stopped.
It's the oddest feeling, knowing that the person you thought would be your oldest and dearest friend  simply was no longer on your radar. 
She stopped responding on Facebook then one day I found she had limited my view of her page.
It felt weird, and though I knew it was all because of politics,
I had trouble believing that she would simply just stop all connection with me.
I told her long ago that it wouldn't offend me if she chose not to read or respond to some of the things I posted and I would simply do the same for her, I guess she just couldn't get there.
I mean ... isn't it possible to be friends with someone that you have differences of opinions with.
It felt like a death in the family.
I know that things and people change in life.
Friends and acquaintances come and go and sometimes change because we change.
It's still weird to me though that I know we'll never talk again.
I did feel kind of watched though, especially knowing she could have full access to my page though I was limited on hers, so one morning recently I went ahead and unfriended her, her husband and her kids.  I guess I felt like the friendship needed to go both ways or no way at all.
So that was it ... gone and they no longer have any access to view my page.
I wish her well ...
I hold no anger towards her.
I understand.

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